10 Ways to Improve Communication in Your Relationship

Here is my list of 10 simple ways a couple could improve the communication in their relationship. *This is recommendation only, but proven to work. There are many more ways to better the communication, but these 10 are vital. *

1. Accept responsibility for your actions. Don't lie about situations or things just because you either are afraid as to how the your mate will react, or if you think you already know how your mate will react.
   
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   Be open about your thoughts and feelings. Always be open with how you feel about things, or you will send the wrong message. You want to make sure that your feelings are being taking into consideration.
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   Listen to what your mate is telling you. Understand, or try to understand what your mate is talking about and be actively involved in the conversation, even if it bores you.
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   Agree to disagree. No two people think alike all the time. Understand that you'll have to accept your mate's opinions even when you don't agree with them.
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   Be willing to compromise. Sometimes it's very necessary to do things that you absolutely have no desire to do, but it makes your mate happy. After all, it's not all about you all the time.
   
   
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   Bite your tongue. Some arguments are simply not worth the time. To avoid saying something very hurtful or that you don't mean, bite your tongue and walk away.
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   Don't shift blame. (Goes back to accepting responsibility for your actions) Don't try to make the other person feel guilty, bad, or like it's their fault for your wrong doing.
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   Keep people out of your business. No matter how hard this may be, it's healthier for the relationship. A relationship/marriage, unless it's understood to be an open relationship, should be between those two people ONLY. By this, I mean that friends and family should not have ANY say so what-so-ever as to what goes on in that relationship. Don't call your friends/family to discuss an argument you had with your mate, unless you're completely done with your mate because by discussing your argument with them, you give them a negative image of your mate, that you may not want. If you need someone to hold your hand and guide you through your relationship, you are not adult enough to be in a relationship. Grow up, then reconsider.
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   Be respectful in arguments. (Goes back to biting your tongue) Arguments are inevitable, but they don't have to blow up into something huge. No name calling or derogatory remarks. Words really do hurt. Be mature.
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    APOLOGIZE. Always apologize for your wrong doing. Be genuine in your apology, and learn from your mistakes. Remember, a repetitive apology means absolutely nothing and destroys your credibility.

Ok, so now that I have given you some advice, use it or share this with someone, and let me know how it works out for you. I'm all for saving marriages and relationships! More ways to improve your relationships coming soon! Be Blessed!