He'll love me one day...

Shante and her husband Greg, who were mutual friends of Keyon and Candi, introduced Keyon and Candi to each other one day. Keyon and Candi had never met each other in person before, and had only spoken over phone. However, after briefly talking over phone, Keyon and Candi decided to meet each other for dinner.

On their first dinner date, sparks immediately start to intensify between Keyon and Candi. He liked how she looked, she liked how he looked, and they both enjoyed each other’s conversation. The idea of marriage and kids were brought up during conversation by both of parties, as an option if their relationship progressed forward. The fact that neither of them had any children was a plus. That night, since Keyon and Candi enjoyed each other’s company so much, they both decided to keep in touch and continue seeing each other. The first month or so everything went great. The two of them were talking all the time, texting each other all the time, meeting up at his place all the time (no sex), and were just enjoying each other’s company.

Happily Miserable

When people enter relationships, most of them have unrealistic expectations. Ideally, we all would love to fall in love with the man or woman of our dreams, and be happy with that person for the rest of our lives, but reality states that even if we find that person we’ve been dreaming about, life isn’t that simplistic. There are many speed bumps on the roads, many roads with very little light, and many roads that will have dead ends. Each person comes into the relationship with independent thoughts and feelings, but most importantly, different ways of viewing life. Too often, one person gets too consumed with the other person’s life, and forgets how to think, act and feel independent. This lack of independence becomes burdensome on the other mate and causes major problems in the relationship. People need to understand that there is no such thing as a person completing them. We are born a complete person and the other person should be complimentary to our lives. Each person in the relationship should continue to have a life outside of each other because it makes a healthier relationship. Going out occasionally with friends and family provides the person an outlet that may not exist if they only spent time with each other. Besides, time a part helps you learn to appreciate each other more.

Give It All Away

Life is tough, and can sometimes seem unbearable to live. With all the chaos going on in the world, we lose sight of the bigger picture and get consumed in our issues. Life is not all about us. Just because we’ve had a bad day doesn’t make it right for us to take out our frustrations on others. You never know what type of day that person has had either. We definitely need to be more cognizant of others and understand that we have a responsibility to treat others, no matter who they are, like we would want to be treated. Life is not promised to be given to us with out triumphs, and we are not promised a life without trials and tribulations. The problems we face in life sometimes consume our thoughts and dictate the mood we will be in for the day. Our personal issues take precedent over everything else in our lives because have not learned to let go and let God handle them. No matter how horrible our situations may seem, someone else situation is always worse. When we understand that we don’t have all the answers, that we cannot fix everything thing wrong in our lives, and that we too, fall short and will endure hardships, we will get a better glimpse of the picture.