A group of friends were out and about having diner and drinks. There were 7 females and 6 males. They were discussing how men will deal ith a woman who has experimented with both sexes, but in most cases, a female will not deal with guy who has also experimented with both sexes, even though he was honest with the female.
3 females said they would deal with a guy who has experimented and realized it wasn’t for him because everybody makes mistakes, and he was honest about it. The 2 other females were kind of stuck, but would consider it depending on the situation. The other 2 females said never. All the guys said they didn't care what the person had done before them, as long as they are up front and honest.
So, the question is…would you date a person who has experimented in the past with another person or persons of the same sex, if you were heterosexual? Why?
4 comments:
Personally, I would not date a man that experimented with the same sex. I understand that people make "mistakes", but to me, this is simply not what you call a mistake. Bad decision...yeah, but not a mistake, unless it was done once. Even then, I question the motive. I would appreciate the honesty from the man, but I would not be able to date him because in the back of my mind, I know that he would still have those "mistake" tendencies. We would just have to develop a friendship and leave it at the level. My advice to him would be to stop claiming this was a mistake and own up to his bi-sexuality. You like what you like and that's that. There are many women out here that would have no problem dating a man that has been with the same sex. They would respect him for his honesty and love him like no other. I would advice the man to go find that woman since he is interested in women now!
Well I agree with the guys I mean I see nothing wrong with dating a woman who has "played" around.. I also think that people can change and should no be judge for things that took place in the past, But on the other hand you have to understand a woman's concerns of dealing with a Guy who has "played" around as well I mean these days you never know who is doing who or what !
In either case I think both parties should be honest and see how it goes from there if he or she wants to deal with one who has "Played" so be it, But its going to take some serious trust between the two and a open line of communication to build a strong and secure relationship..
I wouldn't date a man if I knew or suspected that he'd fooled with other men. As a woman who used to be a practicing lesbian, I am going to make a pretty big generalization that I think is 90+% accurate: When a man sleeps with another man he is gay, period. He's not experimenting. He's gay and 9 times out of 10 he is NOT changing. I haven't met one bisexual or gay man yet who has turned his back on the peen.
Have to add this...
BUT, that's just my preference. My best friend is a light stud (masculine female, but she's still a woman for sure!), and I think that a formerly practicing gay man would do well with her. He'd like her dominance and she'd like his submission. She always gets hit on by feminine type males. I wish she'd just get with one - what they do in the bed would be THEIR business, but at least she'd be on this side of the fence. ~sigh~
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