Ever had a friend you really cared about, but you felt it was just something about that person that didn’t quite sit right? Well, I have found myself in that situation, and I just want to start snipping the branches. I am very much a no nonsense type of person. I don’t carry very many friends, and the ones I call my friends, have rightfully earned that spot...at least that’s what I thought. I honor the friendships that I have, and I pride myself in being a good friend. I know that all friendships aren’t meant to last forever, but dang.
About a year ago, a so-called friend of mine made some inappropriate remarks on a “secret” website about myself and a few other friends of ours. The friend had been secretly gossiping about us behind our back for about 2 years or more before we found out. Now not everything that was said was bad, but it was just pure principle. This was supposed to be our friend, and this friend was talking about us behind our backs. We felt totally betrayed by that friend because we all considered each other family. We all shared some information with each other that was supposed to between us. Some of that information found its way onto the site. Anyways, make a long story short, we ended up talking to the friend and exposing the fact that we knew about the site. Initially, the accusations were denied, but eventually, the friend admitted to posting the information. Because we had been friends so long, we all decided to forgive the friend and try to move forward. 
This was the real issue…as we began to move forward, more and more things about the friend’s character began to surface, and we started to see the true colors. Months after the website issue, the friend and I were talking thru email, along with a few other people, and the friend made a remark to me that I felt was condescending. Being as though I wasn’t completely over the first incident, this just push me right over the edge, and I decided that for me, it was best for me to just cut the strings and count it as a lost. I felt kind of bad because I really cared about that friend, but I also felt that this friend was a fake. This story is really a lot more complicated then this, but in a nut shell… I’m not comfortable enough to allow the friendship to go on because I no longer trust the friend. I know everyone should be forgiven, but how many times should you get burned before stay away from the fire?
2 comments:
Exactly SO BE IT!...and to answer your question, NO I don't talk about my friends behind their backs, anything I have said to you, I have said to them. I am not afraid to speak my mind. I don't wait for people to leave before I express my opinions. You are fake, and you have been fake, it just took me some time to realize it. Futhermore, it was very unnecessary for you to put their names in here, but what should I expect from you? Later Queen of fakeness!
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