OK...I am so tired of people "hooking up" with each other then finding out who that person really is. A lot could be avoided, if we simply took some time to do our homework. Seems to me, there should be some standard things that you should find out about a person before you give your most precious gift, your body, away. Why is it necessary to get to the sex before we even know one another? There will always be time for sex, besides knowing the person makes the sex better in my opinion. Maybe it's my "ole school" ways, but I firmly believe that you need to KNOW the person before you give them a piece of you.
Now, the magic question is ...what information should you know about a person before you risk your life having sex with them, and yes I said risk?
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I think when you are unlucky in love NUMEROUS times....some give up, others keep searching. If you are searching for love in the wrong places, I can see how it can be easy (no pun intended) to have unattached, unemotional sex.
It depends in my opinion what type of sexual relationship you are looking for. I mean if you are just looking to hook up then you really don't need any information because as far as you are concerned it is just a thank you ma'am type of situation.
But if you really want a serious relationship then you should be upfront and honest with the person you want to be involved with. What I am saying is you should have the person's SSN prior to having sex with them but that is only if you want a serious relationship.
OK I add my nickel to the dime! First, I will address this risk factor, anytime during your relationship you will "risk" something when you become intimate with that person. I do not agree with your use of the risking/risky/risk word. If you are going to live your life thinking that being intimate is about risk then don't get intimate. Some people can live like that (I am not one of them).
So now let me address of option of getting to know someone before you become intimate with that person. Yes, if both parties agree to wait then wait but both parties must agree. Giving a piece of yourself? Well I am not sure what that piece is, it be could your mind and not your body. The most precious gift you have to give is NOT your body it is your mind. Because as far as I am concerned letting someone get that close than hey let's get "risky". You can get a piece of ass anywhere! If that is all you are looking for! I am going to assume that you are looking for a committed partner, and a relationship. In that case sex "should" not initially be the most important aspect of the relationship. As you get to "know" someone then you can move forward with the physical aspect of the relationship.
To me risky sex is someone who sleeps all around with cats, dogs, birds, lions and tigers and bears oh my....
Beverly...yes, anytime you get involved with a person, you are risking something. To say don't get intimate because you think it will be risky is like saying don't do your homework and buy the first house or car you see. You gotta be real and way things out! Risky sex is getting with a person you hardly know, not necessarily a person sleeping around. The body is a temple and should be treated as such. A person can get into your mind much easier through your body. Sex is not just physical, but emotional and spiritual as well.
What is really sad is that we research jobs, homes, schools, organizations, etc, before we make major moves, but we see doing our homework on a potential partner(be it sex or whatever)as a problem. And yes, sex should not be the most important aspect of the relationship PERIOD! So, since you wouldn't use risky, then what word suits you best?
I think that being sexually intimate has taken on a new meaning. It is no longer seen as a sacrament, something that only people who are forming a union under God should engage in. However, even though men/women sleep with each other casually, a man still has that initial ideal embedded in the back of his brain, and he will have little to no respect for you sooner than later if he can get in your panties before he has to learn your mind.
Surly you ask for their MARRIAGE status, HIV status, Credit Status, KIDS status, and SEXUAL Orientation.... bonus... Future Status.. is he going to be there for u for the long haul ( finacially, emotionally and spirtually...) ur cuzzzzz colie cole..
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